Couple counselling

Relationships are complex and as a couple grow together through the stages of life there are inevitable changes in the structure and dynamics of their relationship. Adjustments to life are a sign of health and strength but sometimes it becomes difficult to talk about change and for a couple to become aware of their reaction to it. It is not unusual for a loving and intelligent couple to drift away from open and continuous acknowledgement of change. The presence of a counsellor provides the safety and confidence to step back from the issues that frustrates, confuses and ultimately divides a relationship.

What happens in a couple counselling session?

Initially the counsellor will make you feel comfortable and ask a few questions to gain a background and understanding of your relationship and to clarify your goals before inviting you to participate. The counsellor may explicitly discuss some common factors in relationships but generally he will be listening hard to each person and reflect some of the differences between what each partner says and does and what the other perceives. The counsellor will be attempting to understand each partner and will not be judging anyone, picking sides or arguing.

How often will I need to come and how much is it?

Generally sessions are arranged once a week at the same time, although there is flexibility to increase or decrease these arrangements. Each session will last exactly one hour and will cost £45. Sometimes it takes time to sort out all the issues so it is difficult to put a time period on couple counselling, it will be up to you but the counsellor will give you an honest and impartial appraisal of whether he feels the process is working for you.

What happens if one of us gets angry?

People do get angry in couples counselling but often the expression of anger can lead to significant shifts in a relationship and bring out the important issues. It can also be frightening and intimating for a partner so the presence of a counsellor is important to facilitate the expression of anger and avoid destructive or abusive behaviour. The counsellor will put the anger into context, explore the meaning behind it and try to make sense out of it to encourage learning and connection.

How do we start?

Contact Simon on 07795095524 or email to discuss the next step.